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A couple of weeks ago, I was looking forward to a nice relaxing weekend when my mom called and said, “Dad’s going to need your help tomorrow.â€
My heart sank a little.
She was talking about helping round up the cattle and bring them home. Horses are the family business but the cattle are a little more my mom’s thing. I’ve never been a fan, and neither is my dad. In fact, the bright side of living so far away used to be strategically timed trips home; ones that never coincided with moving cattle.
Once I realized it’s a little late to get that little brother I could bribe or blackmail into doing my chores –  it occurred to me that I’ve gotten off pretty easy when it comes to working on the farm.
My parents made a conscious choice early on, that even though the horses were their world, it didn’t have to be mine. They decided they would let me find out what I wanted out of life on my own. In fact, when I came home from college and said I’m going to work in Hollywood, they just said, “Drive safe,†(Well, maybe they said a little more than that but for brevity’s sake, you get the picture).
Unlike most kids who grow up on a farm or ranch, I didn’t have many chores nor did I have to adhere to a daily routine with the animals. If I had to help with chores, I was usually assigned the tedious task of watering: filling water for the animals. I hate watering. You pretty much just sit there and watch the water rise. It’s like watching water boil but without the nice bubbles in the end.
That lack of childhood chores now means that when I want to know more about the work at home, I have to make the effort to learn it and prove I can handle the tedious tasks as well as those hands-on.
The weekend’s “helping Dad†meant something more “hands-on.†We would be rounding up one of the pastures full of cattle and herding them into the trailer to move closer to the ranch for winter. I’d be riding a horse or ATV (which one, I didn’t care) on a nice fall day and I’d probably get a stop at the Tastee Freeze out of the deal. This didn’t sound so bad so I resigned myself to going home early. The chances my cattle inexperience would get me run over were really only 1 in 50 after all.
Sunday morning I expected a ridiculously early boot-camp style wake-up call from my Dad. Instead, I stumbled out of bed mid-morning to find the plans were changed. In the 11th hour, and in true Mom style, she decided we didn’t have to do it. Instead, she would help later. Translation: I don’t want you guys to screw it up so I’ll do it myself.
Once again, I got off easy.Â
I’m still deciding if that is a good thing or not.